...I can't handle it...
...you need to...
...you are just like...
...hurry...
These are phrases I would like to completely eliminate from my vocabulary. In my humble opinion, they don't really serve others or encourage others at all. The middle two phrases especially are somewhat belittling and self-elivating. As if I really know what someone else NEEDS to do. I feel like I am elevating myself to be a god in the other's life.
The third phrase isn't quite right to say because each and every human being is different. Sure we can be labeled as an extrovert or introvert, 'free spirit' or perfectionist, but to say that we are 'just like someone else' isn't entirely true.
We are just like sheep.
Seriously, we are just like sheep that have gone astray looking for greener grass. We are just like sheep who are totally clueless to the reality that there indeed is a REAL shepherd watching over us, actively protecting us, and always leading us to the BEST pasturers for a thriving life. There is a God. I believe with all my heart that there is ONE GOD, Father of ALL and HE IS REAL.
This invisible supernatural all powerful GOD is good. He not only made me and you, but HE loves me and you.
So what does this have to do with the aforementioned phrases at the beginning of this post? Well, to me, everything. If HE indeed is Real and the Lord, the giver of life, then the life that I now live in the flesh is a life I can handle. Everything that is in my life now - relationships with my kids, husband, sister, brother, parents, friends - is handle'able'.
...you need to... Well, that phrase may cross my mind, but I'm going to refrain from saying it, because the truth is that I really only hear what the Good Shephard is telling me to do. I will trust in the fact that if He speaks to me and let's me know what I ought to do, then He will most certainly speak to you and I pray for you to have the courage to go forth with what you know to do.
...hurry...Boy, do I not like that word. HURRY UP!!!! It's like someone yelling at me and telling me to be someone I'm not. I feel like it's others imposing their opinions of how things should go, their personal time schedule upon me.
That is what I used to think. But my thoughts have changed. I put myself in the shoes of the one who was saying "hurry up" and I began to see a different perspective. The other person felt un- loved and unimportant. That other person went so far as to say he felt invisible and sad. Wow. I desire to have healthy relationships and so I choose to respect the other person and be courteous. I will be on time, because it is respectful and courteous and ultimately leads to a more healthy relationship with that friend. I don't want to yell "HURRY UP!" at my kids and get everyone all stressed out. I want to teach them about respect and courteousness and that these two qualities are important for maintaining healthy relationships. I want to make every effort to show you that you are loved, you are important to me and that you are a real treasure in my life and not invisible. That sometimes will mean waking up 10 minutes earlier or it may mean moving at a pace that may not at my preferred pace, but guess what -
You are worth it.
...you need to...
...you are just like...
...hurry...
These are phrases I would like to completely eliminate from my vocabulary. In my humble opinion, they don't really serve others or encourage others at all. The middle two phrases especially are somewhat belittling and self-elivating. As if I really know what someone else NEEDS to do. I feel like I am elevating myself to be a god in the other's life.
The third phrase isn't quite right to say because each and every human being is different. Sure we can be labeled as an extrovert or introvert, 'free spirit' or perfectionist, but to say that we are 'just like someone else' isn't entirely true.
We are just like sheep.
Seriously, we are just like sheep that have gone astray looking for greener grass. We are just like sheep who are totally clueless to the reality that there indeed is a REAL shepherd watching over us, actively protecting us, and always leading us to the BEST pasturers for a thriving life. There is a God. I believe with all my heart that there is ONE GOD, Father of ALL and HE IS REAL.
This invisible supernatural all powerful GOD is good. He not only made me and you, but HE loves me and you.
So what does this have to do with the aforementioned phrases at the beginning of this post? Well, to me, everything. If HE indeed is Real and the Lord, the giver of life, then the life that I now live in the flesh is a life I can handle. Everything that is in my life now - relationships with my kids, husband, sister, brother, parents, friends - is handle'able'.
...you need to... Well, that phrase may cross my mind, but I'm going to refrain from saying it, because the truth is that I really only hear what the Good Shephard is telling me to do. I will trust in the fact that if He speaks to me and let's me know what I ought to do, then He will most certainly speak to you and I pray for you to have the courage to go forth with what you know to do.
...hurry...Boy, do I not like that word. HURRY UP!!!! It's like someone yelling at me and telling me to be someone I'm not. I feel like it's others imposing their opinions of how things should go, their personal time schedule upon me.
That is what I used to think. But my thoughts have changed. I put myself in the shoes of the one who was saying "hurry up" and I began to see a different perspective. The other person felt un- loved and unimportant. That other person went so far as to say he felt invisible and sad. Wow. I desire to have healthy relationships and so I choose to respect the other person and be courteous. I will be on time, because it is respectful and courteous and ultimately leads to a more healthy relationship with that friend. I don't want to yell "HURRY UP!" at my kids and get everyone all stressed out. I want to teach them about respect and courteousness and that these two qualities are important for maintaining healthy relationships. I want to make every effort to show you that you are loved, you are important to me and that you are a real treasure in my life and not invisible. That sometimes will mean waking up 10 minutes earlier or it may mean moving at a pace that may not at my preferred pace, but guess what -
You are worth it.
